Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Holy crap, guys! You’re getting married?
A: Yes, yes we are.
Q: When is this blessed event happening?
A: August 18, 2012, at 6PM.
Q: Is that the longest engagement ever, or what?
A: No, actually it’s not really that long in the grand scheme of things. We don’t believe in rushing into anything.
Q: Where are you getting married?
A: The Inn Marin in Novato, CA, which is about thirty minutes north of San Francisco for those who aren’t from around here. There’s more information on the Venue page.
Q: Wow, that’s really far from my location. Why aren’t you getting married [somewhere else]?
A: We found a location that was mutually agreeable, not super far from us, and would be generally convenient for the bulk of our guests. If it’s any consolation, it’s a bit of a schlepp for us, too.
Q: Okay, serious question – where are you registered?
A: We are registered at Amazon.com, because, well, we’re nerds. And that’s what nerds do.
Q: So, uh, there are a lot of games and stuff on your registry. Don’t you want a nice toaster?
A: We are adult nerds (and have been for awhile), which means that we’ve already acquired and own practically every appliance we could possibly want. What we don’t have nearly enough of are little plastic zombies or really nice sets of dominoes. (Who doesn’t want to play double-18s?)
Q: I don’t have an invitation! Do you two hate me?
A: Of course not. However, due to space and finances, we are forced to limit our guest list to a relatively intimate affair with close friends and family.
Q: What if I can’t make it? Will you hate me THEN?
A: Nope. Not even then. It turns out, life happens. We get that and hope that we’ll get a chance to see you soon.
Q: Will it be a themed wedding?
A: Not as such, but the image we like and want to convey is a 1950s cocktail party. Ladies in cocktail dresses, gentlemen in suits. There will be no sit-down dinner, but instead we will have an hors d’oeuvres and cocktail reception so we can get directly to the dancing as soon as possible.
Q: Will I have to wear a costume?
A: Not at all. It’s a cocktail event, so cocktail attire is suggested. (That’s cocktail dresses for ladies, suits for gents… or the other way around if that’s your bag. We don’t judge.) It’s also outdoors and there’s a rather extensive lawn in the courtyard, so spike heels may not be your best choice. That being said, we would love it if you joined us in our 50s inspired image. Ladies, think fitted bodices with poofy skirts. Gentlemen, think fedoras. If you look in the mirror on your way out the door and think that you’d fit into a mid-century Chicago gangster flick, then you will have succeeded admirably.
Q: Are you going to make your own dress?
A: As many of our friends and family know, I (Roo) do a fair amount of sewing for various events. I wasn’t originally going to make my own dress, but the pattern that I’ve found and like for my dress is so absurdly simple that I will be. I am, however, making three test-runs of the dress in various fun fabrics. You know, for science.
Q: Will there be dancing?
A: Hell, yes. Prepare for a lot of swing and waltz music, and for god’s sake, in addition to your Awesome(tm) shoes, wear comfortable ones for dancing.
Q: Who will be in your wedding party?
A: Already ahead of you.